January Gemorie

Did you ever felt humiliated or feel so down every time the media bombards us with their "perfect body images" or "tips to get fit this summer" it's as if you are not doing your part to stay fit and healthy.

Most of the time, this kinds of news and images hits our self esteem, sometimes even the latest fashion trends can be annoying. Its like the time you spend sweating on the gym to be fit, to be healthy, to be able to wear the clothes that you are comfortable with is still not enough.

Perhaps being thin is what's ideal, but most women would not agree in that, even I myself believe that being thin doesn't always mean your healthy and being fat doesn't mean your slouching on the couch eating junk all the time. Chubby girls can be fit too, and not because your a few pounds above the scale means your overweight, what about muscles? Muscles weigh more heavier than fat!

Not because one is too thin or overweight means they are neglecting their health. It just means that each person, each body type responds differently to a certain fitness routine. And not because someone spends more time in the gym means all their goal is to shed all those extra pounds, there are other reasons why one spends time working their ass in workout centers and believe me, you should too.

Everyone of all sizes are now more competitive in the health and fitness department and here's some of the reasons why.

Physical activity such as brisk walking releases endorphin's, a chemical in our system that triggers a positive feeling in the body which means you wont snapped when things doesn't go the way you want it to be or when work is filling up.

Less stress means you are unlikely to be depress or feel anxious. Also, being stress free acts as an anti-aging solution. For one, physical activities doesn't only releases happy chemicals, it also strengthen our bones and builds muscles that are strong enough to prevent damages for years to come.

It's kind of a cause and effect thing. A less stressful daily life results a happy disposition. When you are happy, you became more focus with things, more relaxed with your choices thus, creative juices overflows in your system, which only means work is done pretty easily equals more time for yourself and your family. Combine it with healthier options and having strong bones and muscles and you'll last a couple more years to play with your great grand kids.


Another thing about being in the gym are the sportswear pieces each enthusiast wear. Yoga pants, running shoes, those nice crop tops that shows a great view of abs and biceps. Not to mention who would want to see a sexy butt doing squats?

Extra Info: Did you know that there was a time in the past that women are not allowed to compete in a marathon? They think we are fragile, but there is one women who proved them wrong, Kathrine Virginia "Kathy" Switzer, best known for being the first woman to run and complete the 1967 Boston Marathon under entry number 261 in 1967. -Wikipedia

I haven’t been in the gym for a very long time. In any case, I was never the type to wake up before dawn to prepare for my gym class before heading out to whatever activity I need to do that day. In addition, I’d rather go straight home and rest than visit the gym after office hours. I don’t have the energy left to at least run a few miles after a busy day at work.

I do run during weekends but that was a very rare event. I do crunches and squats but after a few repetitions I will find myself doing something else, like watching Netflix.

Anyway, recently, my office mates are all about cutting calories and getting fit, not to mention the cute guys at the gym or their yoga instructor.

Kidding aside, I think I’ve been gaining weight, no wait, let me rephrase that “I am gaining weight!!”. The stress of becoming a part of a new team and a new job, my slightly sedentary lifestyle, my binge eating habits when I am stress all adds up to my love handles and its freaking me out how my jeans won’t fit the way they usually do.

I decided to check out one of the many fitness facilities around the office. I found a few good ones with great fitness classes. But it’s kind of intimidating looking at the gym enthusiasts. They all look fashionably great.

The last time I was at the gym, I look like a sweating pig on white T-shirt and jogging pants, but these gym goers look all amazing, like running on a full speed treadmill wouldn’t make them sweat.

While most of us aim to be on tip top condition, looking good while sweating seems to be something we should also look after, in any case no one would want to be caught red handed, especially in a place like this where there is a possibility to meet a lot of people.

Here are some simple tips to look effortlessly good while working out.

1. Invest in good sportswear: Dress for comfort, pick up sportswear pieces that will make you feel comfortable, not too baggy, not too tight, you should be able to move without feeling discomfort. Pieces that absorbs sweat and dries out easily are a go to.

Yoga pants and leggings seems to be the in thing, bold colored sports bra or razor back sando’s, crop tops and a size bigger than your original size white shirt can be seen to most gym enthusiasts.

2. Good trainers: As a girl our rule of thumb is that “good shoes brings you to good places”, same with picking rubber shoes and trainers. You have to choose one depending on the type of workout you are into.

Running shoes are made especially for running. Trainers are the best options when you are into sports but it still depends on what type of sports you are into. Cross-trainer are also a go-to option when you’re going to spend more time on the treadmill or just have some light jogging or brisk walking exercises.

3. Bring a Functional Bag: Come on girl, we both know this, you won’t follow the rules of the fitness facility no matter what the gym assistant tells you. I’m sure you will bring this and that with you inside the gym. Better bring a slightly bigger bag that can hold your stuff and can be more functional. Like sportswear pieces and accessories that you can bring beyond the gym, it’s called athleisure fashion, and believe me, you’ll get hooked to this trend.

4. Go for waterproof: No matter what I tell you, you will still push the no makeup-makeup-look in the gym so better invest in a water proof mascara, a good lip gloss that has better hydration qualities, a well-groomed brow and nothing else. Again, nothing else in your face aside from a water proof mascara, lip gloss and polished brow.

No matter how good you are when it comes to the no-makeup-makeup-look, it will dissolve in a messy, sticky sweat that will be seen on your towel, and it looks gross.

You should also invest in colorful hair tie’s and head bands, to accessorize your hair.

5. Water bottle: No matter how good you look, fainting from lack of water is more horrible than getting caught without makeup on.

Anyway, I am already trying to increase my stamina before I enroll in a fitness class. At present, I am regularly taking a jog, well more like brisk walking - during weekends and taking the stairs instead of the elevator.

I’m also cutting on calories little at a time, decrease in junk food intake, eat healthier foods and sleep at least 6 hours, yes that’s the longest I can get during work days.

And that’s my list. How about you? Did I miss something?  

The summer is just right around the corner and I know you’re just as excited as I am. The long cold winter nights are over, dry skin and chapped lips are almost recovering as spring slowly makes its way for summer.

Aside from longer days which means more time playing under the sun, it also means a long vacation and what else, going to the beach! Here are your summer essentials for 2016, I also included some fashion must haves just in case you want to be upbeat with what’s new and what you should put at the back of your closet.

1. Swimsuits: Let’s not forget that summer means wearing swimsuits. It doesn’t matter if you have that #PerfectSummerBody, whatever your size is, you can wear a swimsuit. The best tip I can give is to choose one that would complement your curves.

The current fashion trend is consisting of sporty cut-away bikinis. If you also notice, one-piece swimwear’s are also seen being worn by celebrities, just make sure to look for something with little details like cut-outs, off shoulder silhouettes or something with classic cut ruffles or lace details.

If you still feel unsure or insecure, bring a cover up, wear a sarong or a sheer dress over your swimwear.

Rash guards are also seen being a trendy option for those who are too sensitive to the sun or who don’t want to show too much skin.

“When I first came back to London from Australia about three years ago, I would walk around in my leggings and people would give me odd looks, but these days it’s so much more acceptable to feel confident going bare faced in yoga pants in public”.

-Madeleine Shaw, author of healthy lifestyle book Get the Glow

I feel you Ms. Madeleine, I often travel to different places and most of the time, almost everyone is watching your every move not because you’re a foreigner but because of your fashion style or your choice of fashion.

For example, I was in a different country one time and it was summer, most of them are wearing dresses and me on the other hand is strolling around wearing my yoga pants and T-shirt in that blazing afternoon looking like I just got out of the gym, and their faces were like “what the heck is she wearing?”. 

Sometimes, store keepers will keep an eye on you like you’re not going to pay your stuff. It was stressful at first but maybe I got used to it and now whenever I remember it, I just find the experience hilarious.

Then suddenly, I don’t know where it started, I just woke up one day and notice that everyone seems to be wearing yoga pants and other sportswear beyond the gym.

So how can you look stylish wearing that sportswear when you’re not working out? Here are some simple tips.

1. Choose pieces that is a combination of function and fashion. The best example are track pants, tracksuits, yoga pants and sporty kicks.

Tracksuits, sweatshirts and hoodies are commonly seen being paired with skinny jeans or miniskirts in whatever material - best to choose one that would complement your chosen track suit, or will make your top be the highlight instead – you can either pair it with a sporty sneaker or an ankle boots.

On the other hand, track pants, sweat pants, leggings and yoga pants can be worn on a professional/business environment given you’ve chosen one that have a tailored look. And your workplace offers a more casual dress codes.

Tapered joggers, yoga pants and tracksuits, probably one’s that are ankle length and in block colors such as black, white and gray are the common options, black as the most popular. You can pair in with stilettos or pumps to make the ensemble looking more professional.

2. Dress for the occasion. They say you can’t wear gym clothes on a date, but with the right piece’s mix together, you’ll definitely look way hotter than the girl next table wearing a dress with a plunging neckline.

The best tip is to wear neutrals, in a color palette of nudes, taupe’s, heather grays, dark blues, and charcoals. If you want patterns, choose muted one’s and don’t wear a beat-up sneaker or it will kill the look, instead pick up classic sneakers in white.

Add a feminine touch by wearing dresses and instead of your good old high heels pair it up with sneakers. Choose silk or something with a pop of color when wearing athleisure in neutrals. You can also use a hoodies or tracksuits but make sure you accessorize properly.

3. Accessorize Properly. Speaking of accessories, jewelries inspired in sports are everywhere, all you need is to choose an accessory that would make you look sophisticated or whatever the occasion calls into. Even bags in sporty styles can now passed as stylish.


Tennis shoes, classic Adidas shoes or white sneakers are what seems to be the "in thing" for celebrities rocking athleisure fashion, so you might want to stock up on that.

There are those days when we feel tired with our good old fashion style; wearing skirts or dresses can be impractical to some women so slacks and blazers and pumps are your go to fashion. In most cases this ensemble can be a bit boring if you wore the same type all throughout the week, or worst, your entire career life.

In most cases, almost all of us who work in a business type of environment are required to look professional and dependable. But changing your wardrobe every season can be utterly expensive and impractical, not to mention most fashion brands, be it fast fashion or designer brands releases new items every season.

Most items being released by designer brands are perfect only for the runway where model type of bodies wore the said clothes. In addition, this type of fashion trend are only affordable for celebrities, or, you can actually purchase one that will go a long way but it will make you swim with debts your entire life.

Fast fashion brands on the other hand are more affordable but you've gotta be wary since you might come across someone wearing the exact same clothes you are wearing.

Nevertheless, it is still possible to look expensive without spending all your hard earned money on designer brands or wearing clothes from fast fashion brands all the time without anyone noticing.

1. Get your clothes tailored:

With fast fashion on the rise, you can purchase dresses that looks expensive at a cheaper price, but then again, you might come across someone who wears the exact dress you are wearing, talk about awkward moment eh.

Another thing about fast fashion is that there is a universal size they follow, S M L, which most tailors cringe because every person has his or her own body type and size that would flatter or break their style.

You love that women's jumpsuit you see on fashion magazine but it's a designer brand and it's price is way above your budget? Then again, you found one in an online shop although you are not sure about whether the size would really fit you? Why not visit a textile shop? Have a list of whatever suits your taste and bring it to your good old tailor together with that magazine copy for a custom made dress perfect for your size.

2. Wear Single or Two Tone Colors:

An easy way to look expensive is to wear block colors such as an all white or an all black ensembles, add a good pair of fashion accessories or your one and only designer bag to create stunning statements.

Another option is to combine colors, black on white, red and black, blue and white. Just keep this items in check, fading one's are a no go unless you bought it that way or it was jeans.

3. Iron your Clothes:

Looking sleek and put together make you seem to radiate with luxury. Remember, crinkled clothes make you look unkempt. Make sure that your clothes, especially the one's that really needs ironing is ironed and properly kept on your wardrobe, without stains or rumpled sleeves.

4. Invest in Timeless Pieces:

Go for classic wearable pieces like the little black dress that can be worn on a casual Friday or on a more formal event. Choose a camel tone coat that can be worn during cold weathers, just remember to choose your silhouette wisely.

The current fashion trend for 2016 are bold and block colors of red's and blue's, you can add style by picking pieces with print stripes. What's great about this haul is  that it can be worn every season.

Another tip is to invest in designer bags with classic designs if you can afford it since it can go a long way and it wont go out of style not to mention that the value just increases unless you wont take good care of it.

You can make this classic pieces work on this era by combining what's on the latest trends, this way you wont need to spend huge amount of money.

5. Invest in Statement Pieces:

What make's a classic outfit stunning are the accessories and statement pieces. As mentioned above, be it a designer piece or not, as long as you've chosen the best design that would go with different outfits in different events it can be paired to any clothes anytime

Jacket's or coats and a niece pair of shoes are great statement pieces that when paired with cheaper or more subdued items makes the wearer look more expensive.

There’s so much to love about spring. The change of season where the temperature is perfect for strolling around while savoring the scenery of changing colors, from snow covered branches to warm browns and greens, the flower buds that’s starting to bloom and everything else.

The time to update your wardrobe has come, shove back your heavy sweaters and coats at the back of the cabinet and bring in some of your mom’s spring collection. If you haven’t notice it yet, our current trend came from the 90’s down.

Not your style? It may look daunting and outdated but believe me, you’ll definitely thank your mom for having a full wardrobe of spring fashion saved from her time.

1.Denims – a nineties style that’s making a comeback. Dresses, skirts, even shoes and bags in denim material are seen in the previous spring fashion shows and even celebrities.

Have you seen Selena Gomez wearing that acid-wash-colored-with-a-few-torn-parts-skirt? Even, Zayn Malic, previous One Direction member shared a picture of her “humored “girlfriend Gigi Hadid wearing a long dress with a side boob slit in a denim looking material.

2. Dress – keep your flirt up ladies, the combination of fashion and comfort items are in. The 2016 spring fashion trend features a lot of lace materials, slip dresses and jumpsuits. You might want to start shopping now.

Jumpsuits in block basic colors of white, black, blue and red seems to be showing up as a good option for office outfit, while those bright colored and printed ones are great options for outdoor fun.

3. Tops - Crops tops, Cut-off sleeves in Crochet, Suede, Net Style’s, Sheer type of material.

Spring’s weather is kind of still on the unpredictable stage, one moment its hot and sunny, next the cold wind is blowing. Cut-off sleeves and crop tops give the comfort you need in case the weather suddenly change.

Clothes made of suede materials are also a good option when it comes to unpredictable weather, they are thick enough to be worn during a slightly colder weather and are light and comfy for a spring stroll.

On the other hand, crochet, net and sheer styles are great buys to kick off your spring break/summer outfit.

4. Shoes – time to slowly tuck away your thigh-high boots, SLOWLY because this boots are still good options when wearing a dress or short skirts. Although, I suggest you leave the ones with block heels, or your flat-form type boots.

Start collecting sling-back sandals, flat-form shoes and sneakers for spring/summer getaways. While block heels, mid-heels, denim pumps, cutout suede sandals are great buys for a more formal setting.

5. Accessories - Handbags with embellished details like tassels, pompom, intricate beading designs, or in big bright colors are introduced by many celebrities.

Round sunglasses and suede hats also seems to be the in thing.

Additional Info:

- Choose flora printed dresses, plaids and stripes. Clothes with geometric or animal prints as this style “You exude sheer strength and are an unstoppable force no matter what life throws at you.”

- Invest in good sportswear. Have you seen Kendall Jenner rocking her yoga leggings outside the gym? Or Taylor Swift wearing her tracksuit while having a chitchat with friend after gym class.

Is there any trend I forgot to include? Feel free to drop me a comment.

How do you keep the fire burning in a relationship? More overly on a relationship that has been for ages. This part is the most unnoticed and the most taken for granted part of any relationship. Some might notice it but the sadly it is very late to recover.

Below are some areas that you might find unusual but in reality it is very usual, it only becomes unusual because they are being overlooked more often than not.

1. COMMUNICATION, yes you read it right, it is very usual, in fact we communicate on a daily basis, but more often than not, in a relationship couples only talk but they do not communicate. Find time even if it's only ten minutes a day to communicate to one another and open up. If you can't communicate in the kitchen or lounge, how are you going to communicate in the bedroom?

2. Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner can be a huge turn on. Writing down your biggest sexual fantasy and your partner as well is very helpful if both of you are too shy to say it words. Sometimes just hearing your partner describe what turns them on can be so erotic. Make a rule that the last weekend of the month to have a romantic weekend away. While away, plan it so you can fulfill each other's sexual fantasies that weekend. The break might only be for two days but it will do your sex life a world of good!

3. MAKE TIME FOR SEX, in this crazy world everyone is busy doing something, but always make sure to set aside a time for sex, one night a week for adult play where you spend the night pleasuring each other. It doesn't always have to lead to full sex but it'll be a great chance for you two to explore each other and show that there is still a mutual attraction. No matter how many times you see your partner naked you can still find out new things about each other with exploration and time.

4. Comparing your sex life to others. Yes, some couples find the time to have sex seven times a week, but you don't have to feel you have to be the same. Remember not every couple is the same. If you and your partner try to live up to every other couple you know, you'll exhaust yourself. As your relationship grow, your sex life changes. As long as you and your partner are happy, stop worrying. Besides, all those couples who brag about still having sex "at least twice a day" could be lying. You don't know the ins and outs of their relationship so it's unrealistic to compare yours to theirs. Just focus on your own sex life and don't worry about what others are doing.

5. Above all, make time for each other. Sometimes you may feel there really aren't enough hours in the day to keep everyone happy. Setting aside at least one hour every night after everyone is in bed to sit with your spouse and just relax is very advisable. Spend time just cuddling on the sofa together, perhaps watching your favorite movie or TV show. Just showing that you care enough to make time for each other will make you both happy. You will look forward to your time alone every evening and cherish the time together more

Let’s embark on a journey towards happiness and hopefully pick something along the way that can help our relationships happier.

Happy vs Unhappy: Studies say that the ratio for happy couple is 5:1, while couples who had called it quits are at 0.8:1. This means that the happy couples have five positive interactions for every negative one, versus the 0.8 positive interactions for every negative one that divorced couples go through.

Communication: The determining factor in whether couples feel satisfied with sex, romance and passion in their marriage is by 70%. Happy couples and successful marriage spend at least 5 hours a week of being together doing anything or maybe just talking.

How do we cultivate positive interactions on a daily basis? This can be done by giving compliments, showing appreciation either big or small deeds done for us, relieving fun memories and doing something nice to our partners.

In the Bedroom: It is also important to give importance the activities inside the bedroom. As the survey shows, the happiest couple have sex 2 or 3 times a week, people are 55% more likely to report higher levels of happiness when they have sex every few days and having sex once a week makes people 44% more likely to have positive feelings.

Celebration!: When it comes to strengthening the relationship, studies show that the most crucial factor is how you celebrate your partner’s good news. In one study, people who did this 3x a day for 1 week increased their happiness and felt less depressed afterwards. Also, couples who have new experiences together report more loving and supportive towards one another, and more satisfied with their marriages. This can be done by simply showing enthusiasm, asking questions, congratulating their partner and relieving the experience with them. Oh, don't forget the anniversary, the birthday and that mushy day called Valentines Day, simple things to the most grandest gestures can bring more fire to your relationship.

The Michelangelo Effect: A couple in the happiest relationship also brings out the best in each other, they help each other get closer to becoming their ideal selves. In another study, couples who were asked to recall a moment that involved shared laughter reported being more satisfied in their relationship than those prompted to recall positive moments in their relationship. This can be achieved by sharing an experience together like going for an evening walk, dining in a new restaurant, exploring a place they’re never been, cooking together and going to a concert.

Kung-Fu (Fighting): Not all relationships are perfect, through course of time, a clash is inevitable. Let us look on how a happy couple and unhappy couple tackle this important part of being in a relationship.

When happy couples fight, they tend to defuse tension by showing humor, expressing affection or conceding on certain points that their partner make while unhappy couple tends to criticize, show contempt, roll their eyes, act defensively, resort to name calling or tune out.

After Effect of I Do's: Based on a two decade British study, the people who are happiest with their marriages are those who have been married 5 years or less, don’t have any children, have college degrees and the man of house is employed.

With regards to being married, Americans reveals the top 5 reasons why they get into marriage. The top reason is Love at 93% followed by Making a Lifelong Commitment at 87% then Companionship at 81% succeeded by Having Children at 59% and lastly due to Financial Stability at 31%. In addition, couples who can put a positive spin on their marriage have a 94% chance of experiencing a happy future together.

Plus One-Two-Three: One of the most important phases of a couple is having children. For some, this can be either a blessing or a curse, depending on the couple. Based on studies, right immediately following the birth of the first baby, 33% feel just as satisfied or more satisfied than before while 67% experiences a big dip in marital satisfaction.

Education: Education comes next to having children. Married couples are unhappiest when kids are in pre-school mainly because of separation anxiety and the feel of their kid/children growing up to soon while couples’ happiest levels increase once again once the youngest kid has grown up.

From the Beginning to the Twilight Zone: Lastly, Marriages leads to a big happiness boost for 2 years, on the average. After that, couples’ happiness levels tend to return to what they were prior to the engagement.

A happy marriage is also worth an additional $105,000 a year in terms of life satisfaction while experiencing the death of a spouse/partner is like losing $308,780 per year.

All the single ladies (All the single ladies)

All the single ladies (All the single ladies)

All the single ladies (All the single ladies)

All the single ladies

Now put your hands up

Food For Your Thoughts: 

Don't worry if your single, 

God is looking at you right now saying, 

"I am saving this girl for someone special"

You must have seen it on TV, or read from leading tabloids and magazines – that George Clooney and Amal Alamuddin’s celebrated and romantic Italian wedding on September 27th. It sure did get all the attention and media hype as the world’s most eligible bachelor finally surrendered his bachelor and single status to his Lebanese-born British lawyer fiancée Amal Alamuddin.

But Neil Patrick Harris had something to say to the world – that he got married in Italy first. When Harris appeared on The Late Show with David Letterman on September 29, he joked about Clooney not showing pictures of his wedding on talk shows.

Fact is, Harris got married to his long-time partner David Burtka over the summer in a small Italian town near Perugia with about 50 guests witnessing their sweet moment. And Elton John sang a few songs for the couple. Harris told Letterman that Elton John is a friend but he didn’t expect him to do that. He and Burtka were so overwhelmed especially when Elton introduced their first dance as a couple.

They danced to Kelly Clarkson’s “A Moment Like This”, a song chosen for the couple’s first dance as they were crazy about Clarkson during American Idol’s very first season where she was declared the winner.

The wedding venue – Italy, was chosen because the couple spent their first trip together in a castle owned by a friend of a friend who knew the dude that owned the castle.

And after being together for over a decade, Neil Patrick Harris and boyfriend David Burtka happily got married – and yes, way before George Clooney did!

For more entertainment news regarding the LGBT community you can visit Proud'nPride.

First and foremost, this is just a re-post from a Facebook friends wall who also re-posted this. Said she found it somewhere in Tumblr but too lazy to browse the entire page to see who originally posted this. I found it somewhat nice and decided to share it to you who's reading right this very moment.

So here it is, hope you like it too, and be inspired, never lose hope, he's/she's somewhere out there with the same hope of meeting you soon.

All of a sudden two decades have passed and you still have not kissed anyone with tongue, or kissed anyone at all for that matter, or had a 3 AM conversation with someone who would rather look into your eyes for ten minutes straight than talk. You have never worn a lover’s sweater or “forgotten” it at home in your bedroom just so you would have an excuse to see them again. You have never even stood face-to-face with someone who makes your hands shake so hard it feels like they’re both having a separate anxiety attack.

This causes you much guilt and self-blame and sadness but above all, an overwhelming curiosity. Are you really that ugly, that unwanted, that uninteresting, that boring, that no one, absolutely no one, has ever looked at you like the only thing on earth?

The answer is no. The better answer is that someone out there, somewhere in the world, is “wondering what it’s like to meet someone like you,” and they have two decades worth of love stored in their veins like a shoot-‘em-up drug, and they’re just about ready to inject it into someone else’s bloodstream. All you have to do is roll up your sleeves and wait for it to happen.

At times you felt so lonely you could stand at the edge of a cliff with nothing beneath you but air and grass and a long, long way down, and you’d still feel emptier than that canyon itself. Maybe you even danced with yourself alone in your room a few times, arms outstretched around a ghost, pretending someone else’s hands were on your waist, someone else’s eyes boring into yours.

Or maybe you fell temporarily in love with strangers on public transportation, fell in love with anybody who so much as accidentally brushed your hand on the way past. For you, falling in love with dozens of people a day was a coping mechanism for not having anyone to love you in return. But people are not eggs and falling in love with a dozen of them does not mean your shell will remain un-cracked. One day you’re going to hit the point where you’re so desperate for human contact that you’re going to snap in half and all your love will bleed out like egg yolk.

But someone out there is eating a bowl of Ramen noodles right now, or putting on slippers, or settling into bed. They are doing all the normal things that you've done in your own life. They are just like you. They have cellulite and extra fat in all the wrong places and goals and fears and doubts and bad handwriting.

The truth is that they are just like you, and being just like you, they’re looking for a lover too. They’re what you might call a soul mate. They think they’re all alone in feeling the way they do, but you’re really both two halves of a whole.

And one day you’ll meet them, bump into them on the street, and your two halves will be put together, and you’ll make one.

So you finally found "the ONE", after years of waiting, of being with someone else, finally, finally that one particular person has cross your path, one who will embrace all of you, and you to him. You've been together for quite some time now, you're even thinking its time to take it to the next level, marriage! A house, a car, a dog, a kid or two?

But wait, are you sure? I mean really, really sure? Can the both of you stand each other for the rest of your lives? Its forever we're talking here. Questions, doubts, a never ending one for that matter. I hope I can answer it for you, or rather I hope I have the answer to your questions.

Premature decisions, late realizations, and the next thing you knew, you where signing divorce papers. That's sad, thinking that person is "the One", and yet you both failed to stay together, and that uneasiness is starting to crawl up your head. Perhaps this are just what people call "wedding jitters", but what if its not? Are there any signs to prevent you from signing that awful divorce paper? Of course there is.

Here are 3 red flags that you should be aware of before you let things go any further.

1. He/She's Just Not That Into You.

Admit it or not, sex is an important factor in marriage. Although, being not really into sex is something that can be a plus to other, (time of the month, not in the mood, too tired from work, working overtime etc) it can also raise an issue, a suspicion, in the long run. Why does he/she not insisting of having some hot night? He's always too tired when he gets home. She's always with her girls. Then wham bam! Is he cheating on me? Is she having an affair?

Someone that never initiates sex? Who never brings it up? Who never tries to seduce you? You need to look into that, because it's definitely atypical. There are many reasons why someone may not seem interested in sex. He or she could be gay, he or she could be depressed and he or she may be getting some on the side. Whatever the problem is, you'd better uncover it before making a commitment because it's almost always an indication of a bigger issue that's just going to blow up in a much worse way later on.

2. Mood Swing and Coping Up

This touches on two things crucial to a long-term relationship, Emotional resilience and healthy coping mechanisms. We all have our ups and downs, we're human. It's how we respond that matters. How does one handle changes? Rejections? Failures? Big or small, how does he/she face these circumstances?

There are healthy ways to deal with stress and there are unhealthy ways. If you saw your partner mopping around like a child with even the slightest, smallest ordeal, your facing a huge, huge trouble dear. Make sure that your partner can see past the frustrations of the moment, that he/she can deal with it using his/her own strength and abilities, that he can get back up, standing proud and tall.

3. A lone wolf with few friends who feels largely misunderstood by the world.

This has a romantic allure, only you truly understand your partner. You're both that special. But there's a dark side to this personality type that could undermine your relationship down the road. Everyone should have at least a couple long-term friends. That's a sign of loyalty and empathy.

Even artists with eccentric vision find people to connect with. You want to see your man or woman connecting with others in a positive way because it shows he can work as a team and marriage is a lot about teamwork. Plus, you cannot be anyone's sole life line. It's unhealthy to be anyone's "everything." That’s what you call codependent relationship.

Just because you're finally facing a relationship deal breaker doesn't necessarily mean it's over between you forever. Maybe it means your partner needs to get help so he can get to a place where he or she can truly commit to you. Helping him or her face the issues is the most altruistic, selfless way to love your partner.

Last Saturday, October 11, 2014, me, my friends/business partners as well as our fellow bloggers gather at SMX Taguig, SM Aura for the Blogapalooza 2014.

First you need to confirm your name and blog name, then you will be given a Blogapalooza printed eco bag, an ID, and a sticker with a certain number which pair you will need to look inside the venue to win a price from EatOutManila, and your good to go inside the event area. Inside we are welcomed by a live band singing some Maroon 5 Song.

Blogapalooza is the “biggest business to blogger networking and marketing event” where businesses shares their services and products to different bloggers who will eventually write an online review – on our end we have an online review plus lots of pictures posted on social media sites such as Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.

It was the first time I attend the Blogapalooza event, and although it wasn’t what I expected it to be –looking at the previous Blogapalooza years – I enjoyed it nonetheless.

There were lots of booths, Acer for one, which I enjoyed the most, with their latest mobile phone that can match to Samsungs Note II. Canon and their underwater video camera, to the usual names like Globe, Sky Cable, etc.

There is also a Bioessence booth where they offered a free back massage or a facial, too bad the line is way too long, I didn’t get the chance to go back to their booth to check if it’s my turn, but I receive a Premium Pass.

Flawless is also full with bloggers trying their games to win some souvenirs, Jergens which I honestly didn’t notice –sorry, maybe Im too preoccupied by other booths or there are way too many people on their booth I didn’t bother to take a peak.

Bangs by Tony and Jackey gave out a Free Hair Keratin Treatment worth P1500 which you can use if you avail any hair service.

Travel related booths and hotel and restaurant booths gave out gift certificates. I got a coupon and a gift certificate from Ace Water Spa a Free one (1) glass of Ace Punch at Sky High Bar.

What I love the most in this event is that food is free and flowing. There is Yellow Cab giving away free slices of pizza, Chips Ahoy, with cookies, House of Lasagna which I didn’t get the chance to have a bite –every time we go back to their booth, their lasagna is out – but I did receive a P100 worth of gift certificate.

Chooks to Go gave out a bucket of roasted chicken, the aroma filled the air around 2:30? Not really sure, I just remembered that it was around the time after I took some bathroom break. Krispy Kreme’s booth has a long line since they’re giving away their yummy treat and some balloons. Max’s booth probably opened a little too late, I saw them preparing their booth around 1pm.

Hmm what else, Oh NIU by Vikings gave out a free food tasting around 3:30 at the sixth floor of SM Aura. You can check out our NIU experience Here

All in all, it’s an event one must see. I went home tired but very, very satisfied. I meet bloggers, learn a few things and closed a few deals, yay! Too bad I didn’t get even a single umbrella.