A few months back, someone, let’s call her ME, is trying to mend a broken heart. Yes! I got my heart broken again, whew. It’s really devastating, after two years of being together, we realized things have changed big time, we are not the same person we used to be, or so it was what we both agree, and thus we decided to end our two year long relationship.

This is not the first time ME broke her heart, but still, the same rules apply. Whatever memories you’ve shared, lessons you’ve learned, everything you shared together should be forgotten, or so ME thinks.

How to deal with your broken heart? One would definitely start with throwing important things he/she gave you, things that remind you of that person, but don’t you think that it is a waste? Why not instead of throwing things, recycle, donate it to organizations, less junk for our mother earth you can also make someone else happy.

But did you know ME didn’t throw, recycle nor donate anything. Yep, she didn’t, she just redecorate her room. A fresh start a new beginning, well, ME did throw junks, movie and concert tickets.

The next thing ME did is call her girl friends, nope they didn’t party, what’s there to celebrate anyway, getting your heart broken is not something one should be happy about.

Instead, they went straight to a salon and spa, spend time talking, crying, laughing and crying again. Then ME have a new hair style while her gal pals opted for a body scrub, facial, manicure and pedicure which ME also avail. Pampering yourself and looking good leads to confidence. When you are confident enough it would be easy to accept things thru.

After a good pampering, they decided to spend time at a diner, ordered tacos, quesadilla, pizza and pasta while sipping tropical punch, pina collada and a few glasses of margarita and tequila. Again they talked, laughed, cry a little, smile some more.

After that night out, ME was again alone on her room, things that used to be there are no longer there, she didn’t throw it, she just changed its position, the usual picture of a happy and sweet couple on her nightstand was changed with an image of a smiling girl. The usual night routine no longer exist, instead she create a new routine.

At the end of the day, after you’ve done everything you can Cry, just cry that is one of the most important things she discovered. Bitterness and Pain, Happy Memories, a future together, all those thing you’ve shared, plans you’ve made will soon be forgotten, in time everything will heal, there will be someone who would cross paths with you again.

Don’t be afraid of a new love, a new challenge and the fear of losing it again, remember that God give us challenges to help us learn to make us grow proud and strong.

There you are walking in cloud nine, hand in hand with your girlfriend, a wide smile on your lips, a proud glint in your eyes as you introduce your girl to your buddies and suddenly, Boom! Your friends look sceptical on your girl.

Ahw! Doesn’t that hurt? You where there, so excited to introduced your girl, happy whenever you see her getting along with your friends, laughing, exchanging jokes, but what if all those are a facade of a very dark reality, your friends find it an obligation to get along with your girl and they don’t want you to tag her along the next time.

A heart breaking reality not only to your but also for your girl, as much as you adore her, you can’t make your friends feel the same, well, don’t you think if they adore her the same way you do-specially your guy buddies-makes it even more complicated? He, he, he, just asking, anyway, the topic here is that your pals seem to not like your girl, so what can you do?

Well, the first thing you should do is to let them warm up to her, introduced her first to a girl pal that you think has the same interests as her, slowly let them became friends, then one by one you’ll notice that almost all your girl pals, maybe even your male friends girlfriends will gradually became at ease with her.

Surely, not all of them will love her, but civil enough to exchange pleasantries with her, some jokes at some point, just don’t force them to like her. It takes time and effort before they can finally warm up to her, perhaps you can bring her to you and your buddies favourite hangouts, common parties or have a party of your own, Friday night dinner is a good thing or better yet introduce her to sports that you and your male pals are playing.

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A reminder though, as a girl myself, don’t force your girl to do things she doesn’t want to. It’s the same as what you apply to your buddies, to be able to be accepted, let her express who she really is and not to pretend to be someone else she is not just to be one of the gang.

Introducing her to sports as what you are your friends are enjoying just like what is stated earlier is a good idea specially if she is into new things, but what if she is as clumsy as I am, or she’s not into sports? Perhaps she has asthma or maybe she just doesn’t want to, but then just to be accepted as a member of the circle you and your friends belong she did her best, but something came up, an accident or she just make something to drag her even further away from your pals. Pretending is not an option. Go back to the first suggestion, and I assure you, it will work much better than you expect it to be.

Never tell a gossip to a girl, come on, as much as you want her to know everything about your friends up to the most detailed things about their lives, your childhood with them, all the antics you are your friends have made throughout the past years, the secrets only you and your buddies share. Never and I mean never even commit the sin of revealing things that only your group has always considered sacred. Let things take their own course before divulging such vital details, plus the fact that girls, oh so love GOSSIPS.

Make a deal. One of the negative things that having a girlfriend can bring is that it takes your time that you supposedly should spend with your pals to the point of forgetting important events or occasions such as a buddy’s birthday. You see, if girls are into a planner where every single event is written, you and your guys are somehow the same. Well, you don’t use calendars but birthdays are the most important event in your group and surely this is an event all of you have memorized, imprinted in your brain that your body just follow on its own,  in fact those are the only events where almost all of you are present, admit it or not.

So make sure to never forget such important event, or occasions that have been planned long before you have a girlfriend. Never compromise your time with your friends or else you’ll be facing an unfavourable consequence.

Last, let’s see, as stubborn as you are they are probably planning of snubbing your girl as well as your efforts just to spite you so make sure you tell them straight and clear that no matter what they do, whatever they say, nothing can stop you from seeing her or weaken your love for her. With this, I hope everything will work out fine.

It’s been raining really hard this morning and the sun didn’t shine that much since last week. It would be great if we could just stay home, sit beside your special someone, watch a movie, maybe cuddle in bed and have some hot soup or a cup of your favorite chocolate drink. But then, all of us need to get up, take a bath and get our ass off to work.

It’s still raining, the raindrops outside and the air conditioner inside are making the cars wind shied foggy. The traffic is killing all my patience with all those horns I can hear on all directions. Everybody is rushing to finally get to where they are going. And yet, despite the loud horns, you’ll still hear footsteps, big and small, fast, passing thru the side of the car. Indeed they are rushing.

The green light signals me to move forward finally reaching the intersection, turn left, and then straight ahead, once you see that tall building surrounded with gold glass go straight to the basement and look for a space to park your car.

Inside the elevator going to the thirty second floor, people look dashing with their own style, some wear simple jeans and shirts, some wear skirts, most wear the usual black garb. Thank goodness we are not required to dress to kill, simplicity is still the best.

Since its raining, more ladies opted to wear skirt, that summer colored and feminine cut ones that are soft and flowing. But I guess I’m different from the rest, I wore my usual dark denim jeans, paired with a four inch navy blue open toe high heels and a blue silk blouse, on my wrist is my favorite wrist watch that my mom gave, two pair of earrings on my ear, a coral pink lipstick, bronze blush was on my cheeks and a natural colored eye shadow for my eyes.

Walking out of the elevator slowly, greeting each and every person “Good morning” I saw one of my subordinate, with a wide smile reaching out a hand with a cup of coffee.

As I reached my table I saw my folders filled up over the weekend, it is as if they mate at night and give birth to new ones at dawn, and in the morning before I reached my work station, they would be there, sitting quietly, waiting for me to finish them up until the end of the shift.

I sat on my chair, give those nasty folders a glimpse, open my laptop, check my emails and again, just like another Monday, I was consumed with my own world where different web design and computer programs occupy most of my eight hour shift has come.

It is indeed a Rainy Monday Morning.

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